Resources from todays ACoA Unity Day talk July 2017

Resources from todays ACoA Unity Day talk July 2017
http://www.stevestokescounsellingandconsulting.com/groups

·       Dr Alan Schore: Presenting on the importance of Early Childhood Development-The first 1000 days.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KW-S4cyEFCc&t=11s

·       Pia Mellody:

Personal Boundaries

https://youtu.be/7bk_SG2QD4E

Human Relationships

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DorV2Og0e00&t=10s

·       Stephen Porges: Polyvagal Theory

https://youtu.be/SRTkkYjQ_HU

·       Dr Dan Siegel

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zF8nBDKxAQI

https://youtu.be/oEKUOaqf1XY

Wheel of Awareness Meditation:

https://youtu.be/ODlFhOKahmk

·       Developmental Trauma Neuroscience info

http://attachmentdisorderhealing.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/02/Felitti-VJ-Origins-of-Addiction-Evidence-fr-ACE-Study-2003.pdf

http://developingchild.harvard.edu/resources/inbrief-the-science-of-neglect-video/

http://developingchild.harvard.edu/resources/building-the-brains-air-traffic-control-system-how-early-experiences-shape-the-development-of-executive-function/

·       Pete Walker

Books and resources

http://www.pete-walker.com/complex_ptsd_book.html

http://www.pete-walker.com/pdf/13StepsManageFlashbacks.pdf

http://www.pete-walker.com/shrinkingInnerCritic.htm

http://www.pete-walker.com/pdf/ShrinkingOuterCritic.pdf

http://www.pete-walker.com/pdf/GrievingAndComplexPTSD.pdf

http://www.pete-walker.com/fourFs_TraumaTypologyComplexPTSD.htm

·       Brainspotting Australia:

http://www.brainspottingaustraliapacific.com.au/

Dr Laurie McKinnon

Radical Exposure Therapy ( Tapping for CPTSD)

http://www.insiteconsulting.com.au/

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·       My Blog:

https://stevestokescounsellingservices.blogspot.com/2017/02/clinical-books-i-have-come-to-find.html

https://restorativemedicine.org/journal/addiction-childhood-trauma-stress-and-the-biology-of-addiction/

·       Jaak Pankseep- The Science of Emotions.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=65e2qScV_K8

Trauma -Recovery-Radical Exposure Therapy and the Gifts of Learning from Great Teachers.

It hit me riding back from Newcastle that I was very grateful to have some amazing women teachers in my life. The privilege of receiving the generous wisdom given with such integrity and heart. 

June Lake is my spiritual Godmother and Yallom supervisor. Irving is her supervisor . June can hold you at your growing edge longer than anyone I know, and you are sure you are in the safest hands.

Roby Abeles and Salene Souza , Taught me Brainspotting , two amazing women of incredible  skill   , changing the face of Trauma resolution in Australia .my continued learning from these master therapists leaves me inspired and hungry for more .

Alexandra Katehakis - Clinical Director of the Center for Healthy Sex, is my Sex Addiction supervisor guides me , teaches me and impresses me with her depth, wisdom and expertise in what is societies great pandemic  right now.( see Sex Addiction as Affect Dysregulation- available of Amazon)

 This last Friday and Saturday I spent two days in advanced training with Laurie McKinnon. I found myself in a masterclass by Laurie over two years ago, and was overwhelmed by how efficient and clear her trauma technique was. 

Radical Exposure therapy , which you can look at an example on Laurie website quickly gets to the heart of the matter. Like Brainspotting it works at a subcortical level of affect regulation and repair.

She videos a lot of her sessions, and I'm so glad but you have to see it to believe it. It also makes her work so transparent . There is know where to hide when you are in the presence of such precision , but the learning is real time and immediate .

We might be from the land down under but there are some amazing master therapists in our midst, and I will always be grateful for learning the next step in the learning process.

I have added the contact details below for training and enquiry.

22 Pushups for PTSD and Complex PTSD-I want to offer something......

I have been moved by my friends on Facebook taking the 22 push ups challenge.A social media shout out to raise awareness for the suicide rate of veterans. I have been a little worried that I am going to get called out, as my fitness right now is not great, food had been a long term issue regarding my own CPTSD. I am one of the people author Pete Walker was speaking to in his book dedication  at the beginning  of his Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder-From Surviving to Thriving, where he dedicates it "to those who on a regular basis were verbally and emotionally abused at the dinner table, and I pray that this book will help you heal any damage that was done to you and your relationships with food" 

So it got me thinking, what can I do?

 I have been working with trauma for nearly 30 years now. In the last ten years it started to really break through into new territory with the decade of the brain, and recently I have been rejuvenated as a therapist   with real results practising Brainspotting and Radial Exposure therapy with PTSD clients.
Both Somatically driven, bottom of the brain up approaches to dealing with trauma.
It simple terms. folks that have been having years of talk therapy, have been arriving and making progress so quickly that they feel its a miracle. I know. I have been in talk therapy for many years myself and still struggling with some behaviours.

So I want to put this out to any who read this, to pass it on, to veterans who are struggling, or their family members who are worrying, to contact me. I will pass on every tool I have that will lead you in the direction of health  and hope and recovery.
Call me and I will make sure we can do a session of Brainspotting to give you an experience of this therapy, to see if it can assist in affect regulating the effects of Trauma.

It has been live saving the men  and women in recovery that have helped me on the way to my own healing. I will always be in debt to their generosity , and this is a way of paying it back.

So please share this, pass on my details, go to my website and I will be in touch. I will add at the bottom of this blog some really helpful video links to help deal with trauma, please read , listen learn and reach out. There is more to life than suffering.

stevestokescounsellingandconsulting.com.au
petewalker.com

PTSD Trauma Links

Dr Bessell Van Der Kolk

http://www.traumacenter.org/index.php

Bessel van der Kolk ----All Briilant!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

http://youtu.be/ymOCS5VfHZ8

http://youtu.be/SIZVJ1RrphU

http://youtu.be/N2NTADxDuhA

Peter Levine: PTSD SPECALIST  Book: The Unspoken Voice

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ZpZvxhk8Ew

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9hP2KJ3UgDI

 

Resource Links

Stephen Porges Book: Polyvagal Theroy

Poloyvagal Theroy. Fantatsic to understand the Body’s reaction to Trauma

http://youtu.be/8tz146HQotY

 

Dan Siegel. Wheel of awareness- Grows new neuropathways.

http://youtu.be/ODlFhOKahmk

Mindsight-Dan siegel---- amazing man, worth a listen

http://youtu.be/B7kBgaZLHaA

www.dansiegel.com   Go to resource section. Lots of great work.

 

 

Allan N Schore: Affect Regulation and Attachment conditions.

The most important years of our life-effects of Trauma on Childhood development

http://youtu.be/KW-S4cyEFCc’

This guy is a world leader in Trauma treatment

David Grand: Brainspotting

https://youtu.be/lm3Plvaf3UE

Indecision and CPTSD

Thank you Lex Mega for sending this through today . Hazeldens Mens reading. I was lost in rigid thinking trying to decide whether to ride the Brass Monkey run or stay focused where my intuition was leading me today. 

Indecision had been a real symptom of my CPTSD . Being disconnection from my centre means the smallest of decisions sometimes become overwhelming and then there is no way out when the implicit feeling state hits and I feel that no matter what do from this point I will not be ok . 

Just for today, the best I can do is nurture the boy within, and trust the man I have become to make the decisions, and if I don't like what I choose, I can always choose again. 

Breathe, hand it over , Carry on.

• MAY 28 •

I sidestep the either/or choices of logic and choose both.

—Ken Feit

Men like us have often had a lifestyle guided by either/or logic. We think we must either conquer the challenge we see before us or we will be failures. We think loved ones must either meet our needs or they do not love us. We think we must either be perfect or we are unacceptable.

Let us now step back from the rigidity of such unhealthy logic. Much of human experience and many answers to our problems don't come in neatly tied packages. As we learn to think and feel in more flexible ways, we find life gets better. Using our intuition at times, rather than always following rigid rules for life, improves the recipe. The arrogance of our thought process has sometimes told us we had the answer, but it closed us to the growth which only comes by trusting our feelings. If we make mistakes, we can learn from them and go on. Many of the most ingenious inventions came not by rigidly following rules, but by following an inner feeling.

Today, I will be open to more possibilities in my thinking.

Australian Childhood Foundation Trauma Conference 2016-Here I come!

Excited to find this week I am still presenting at the Australian Childhood Foundation Trauma Conference. 2014 was the best conference I have ever attended in my life. Ed Tronick, Cindy Blackstock, Pat Ogden, Allan Schore, Dan Siegel and Stephen Porges to name a few-my brain was on fire.

I got to the front row regularly out of pure passionate enthusiasm with my peers.

I had thought the opportunity was lost due to my changed role, but as I re-registered for the conference in my own right, I was offered to speak as Steve Stokes Counselling Services!

Then when I looked up the website, there is a photo with Dan Siegel presenting and in the front row is Andrea Szasz, Jodi Gale, Roby Abeles, Salene Souza and me! I had so much fun hanging with those guys. I tried to tweet as much as Jodi, but my thumbs just couldn't keep up with the "AHA" moments!

Just across from us is all the international contingent. It was such an honor to here them share their life's work. More information than my poor brain could ever hold. I am in admiration of greatness tonight. 

Thinking of riding to the conference to on the 

Trumpy to get my head centered and mindful to learn, learn , learn, oh, and yes-Present!